Wednesday, February 17, 2010

Nursing Our Future

Nursing Our Future

A huge thanks to my dear friend Emily for passing this video along to me. For all nursing moms, okay, all women, okay, all PEOPLE...this is a must watch.

I feel like nursing when and where we need to is SO important. Not only biologically and health wise, but socially.

The video brought me to relive my own "nursing outloud" (aka: nursing where we are, when we need to!) adventures...

On a 747.....with mother-in-law looking on.



While cooking dinner...



On a busy summer day at Disneyland.....



Sitting at the lake, seven months pregnant...



And laying down...



During a photo shoot.....



At a family reunion.....



We nurse....



...Because it's natural.

Because it's normal.

Because it's love.

29 comments:

Amber said...

I was SO scared to nurse anywhere but at home with Solomon. I would take my pump with me everywhere I went and pump him a bottle...why did I do that???

I seriously whip my boob out WHERE EVER with Shiloh and it is SO freeing!! I wish I would have felt that confident the first time around!

mommymichael said...

i love this post.

add to that: "in numerous stores"

I am wicked good at pushing a shopping cart one handed while nursing.

Nicole said...

As I'm sitting here nursing and typing one handed, AMEN sista! :)

Corin said...

@ Mommymichael: Ditto to the stores! I have nursed in almost every Target in my area I think! In the dressing room, in the corner of the women's clothing section, outside on the bench...

@ Amber: I remember when Dakota was little, like 6 months, I used to go to the bathroom to nurse her when I was out. Everytime the toilet flushed she would get scared and cry. Then finally one day I realized how WRONG it was to make my child eat on a toilet!!! I left the bathroom, went back to the booth where we were eating lunch, and nursed my baby!

Aren't the second babies great? You don't have to go through that same learning curve. Nursing in public commences immediately!

@ Nicole: Me too! Hahaha...

Pamela said...

I was just having this conversation with Rusty the other day...about nursing that is...I was always discouraged by family/friends when I nursed my children, which sadfully made me give it up.

Knowledge is power!

Encouragement is wonderful gift too!


Thanks for puting up this post.

Corin said...

@ Pam: That's so unfortunate that your family/friends would discourage you from doing something so healthy and natural for your babies.

When I had Dakota, my grandmother would always say something about me nursing her. Everytime, I just gave her a giddy smile and said, "Yes! Isn't it great?!" Hahaha...she always looked so bewildered.

I think as for generations before us, they didn't have the information that we have now, as a result, they believed what the formula manufactures and hospitals told them, which was that they needed to feed their babies formulated milk. I also think it's much harder for them to assimulate and accept new information. We are so used to information changing that it comes second nature for us to find new facts and change our beliefs. But people like my grandmother, and maybe some family members for you, it's not so easy.

Once I really accepted this, it made it so much easier for me to be around my grandmother and nurse. Everytime she said something, I actually just thought in my head, "Oh how sad, you missed out on something so special and amazing with your kids." After so long, she stop making comments. I think she kind of just gave up!

As for friends discouraging you, I guess there are still people who are misinformed or not informed at all.

Just look at it like the next baby you have, you can be a light to them on the subject! ;)

Love you!

xoxo

Lucy Pevensie said...

I used to nurse the same ways - making toast ... on the airplane most of the way across the U.S. on a BIG airplane ... I LOVED nursing and it kept my bebe nice and quiet. :)

Loved the pix. :)

Lucy Pevensie said...

Oh - sorry - have to add - when I had my first bebe - my husband made me go to the bedroom and b'fd her ... almost LOCK the door ... LOL! He was funny that way. Eventually, I nursed her in the living room ... LOL!
When we had the 2nd bebe - he was more lenient about it ... but after his death and his brother came to my house - I KNOW I offended him by brstfdg my son ANYPLACE! It's fun to be free and annoy people at the same time ... I brfd my 2nd for 15.5 mos - probably not NEARLY as much as you Corin .... :)

Corin said...

@ Lucy: I always think to myself that I truly wouldn't know what to do without breastfeeding! I mean, it's by far the number one card I pull during public toddler meltdowns! Hahaha...

Christy said...

First off Corin I want to thank you for sharing the video as well as your own images.Pictures are worth a 1000 words.The image of the mother breastfeeding in the stream as well as others made me reflect on all the various places I have breastfed all of our children.Very amazing to see mothers around the world {with a smile on my face}.In the middle of life {busy} and just DROP everything to nurse your baby.

I too hid with my first child?Coping with a huge adjustment, all the while being in love.Just the newness and everyone with there two cent advice.It changed one hot summer day when we were in a resturaunt and I was asked if I was going to nurse there.I removed myself and took the baby out to the car,as I said HOT summer day.As the baby was nursing with deep breaths {its a work out for them anyway during infancy,it wears them out} and sweat was beading from his poor little nose.I thought to my self...are you frickin kidding me???? The people I am with are in a cool place enjoying there meals and I removed myself and this infant to apease there ignorance. This poor baby deserves more than that or them.So I whipped my boob back in,cradled the baby,slammed the car door,walked into the resturaunt,sat down,stated "it's too damn hot out there,your all going to have to deal with it"!! I proceeded to breastfeed again.

I have to say one thing...my HUSBAND has been my #1 fan! From the time of conception or even the mear thought of having another little person enter our life.That is "HUGE"...and I thank him more times than I can tell you,for being such a wise enough husband/father to care enough to self educate as well as give a rats @$$ about what the rest of the world thinks{he is stronger when it comes to this than I am}.

So here I am just yesterday after mothering 6 children,but breastfeeding 4 {biological}. Sitting out in my OWN front yard.Neighbor guy comes over and starts talking mid-sentance he says "oh my god,are you breastfeeding"? ....YES I AM..." you should give her a bottle or something,or go inside and get a blanket to cover yourself up"!....you can't see anything,why is it bothering you so much....."because I know whats shes doing down there,go cover up,how old is she anyway"?
First of all he came into my yard!Don't like it turn around an GO AWAY!!!!!!

At my age and experience....Im so over hearing it,because its the norm for our family.I think Im just as shocked that they're shocked. I feel for the new mom's and hope that they get a thicker skin quicker than I did.

It's really sad that on a daily basis we get more critisism than praise.~like were committing a crime....~we have to come to Corins blog to see that were all in this together,more love and praise on her blog than in daily life.

To this day if I see a breastfeeding mother out in public I will give a a smile or wink...if shes not busy a sweet verbal statement. Harley Davidson riders do it....why cant we?

Happy Breastfeeding Mommy's.....

Corin said...

It's so so so sad that your neighbor has that kind of mentality! Unfortunately those kinds of comments are very believable. It happens all the time, and absolutely should not. But still, they really have a way of getting under out skin right?! It's like the mama bear comes out!

You're such an awesome mom Christy! I always look up to you for raising an amazing group of kids! All six of them!

Love you!

Christine said...

Gorgeous! If you ever want to submit a photo to my Tuesday Magical Milk series, just shoot it to me! I will link to your blog: christinemoers [at] hotmail [dot] com

Nicole said...

I nursed each of the older kids for 13 months a piece... I plan on nursing Ashton for 2 years. I don't use blankets or any kind of cover ups because I sure wouldn't want something over my head when I'm eating... plus, it gets so hot for them. Anyways, I've never had a problem nursing in public (and believe me, I've nursed everywhere as well). One guy friend (mutual friend, Cor) sat down next to me on the couch once when Amanda was probably about a year old and was sitting there chatting with me until his sister said, "What are you doing S? She's nursing the baby!". He never even realized it even though we were smooshed together for at least 5 minutes or so. haha He was completely embarrassed after that.

Corin said...

Oh my gosh! That is too funny! I know exactly who you're talking about and can totally see that happening. You are a total pro nurser!

Kristin Jo said...

LOVE this post. And I will be having exactly 0 problems with whipping out the hooter when the time comes in a few months...haha. yes, I just said hooter!

Everyone needs to lighten up. For a sex obsessed nation such as ourselves, the U.S sure is prude-ish when it comes to breastfeeding!

Megan said...

Thanks for the lovely photos!
I would have to say our second gets feed ANYWHERE...the first did too but we were not racing round after another child.
Our second child gets feed while I swing the first. Walk a forest track. Cook. Talk...yell.
Anywhere any time...you got it ANYTIME.
My husband has only asked me once to be a little bit...modest? Is that the word...when we were walking down the main street of our main city with Baby 2 in the sling.
I'm just so sad that well I wanted to enjoy my second and last...but its going so fast.
Love
m

Kristin Jo said...

Hey Corin---would you consider doing a post on nursing as a form of natural birth control? I'd love to get some feedback from your readers on how it has (or has not--yikes!) worked for them.

Corin said...

Ooooh awesome idea!!! It shall be the next post!

Kristin Jo said...

Thanks...looking forward to it ;)

sylkozakur said...

I WISH I had more photos of me nursing. They are limited to one or two while I was in the hospital, and a few grainy pictures I've taken of Lucas. My husband, while he is totally supportive of breastfeeding, is still icked out by it, so no way he would take a pictre. (he has not sabotaged in anyway--he brings my 10 month old to work 3 times a day to nurse, supported nursing my first baby for over 2 years, but he doesn't really like to look at me breastfeeding--though he does love the happy drunk baby afterwards)

Marisa said...

What a beautiful post! Thank your sharing and helping in the fight to bring the natural act of breastfeeding back into the public eye so mothers aren't so terrified to feed their children when necessary.
THANK YOU! :)

Tamara said...

Or instead of breastfeeding you can give your child this...
http://crunchydomesticgoddess.com/2010/05/02/enfamil-enfagrow-chocolate-toddler-formula-mead-johnson/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+CrunchyDomesticGoddess+%28Crunchy+domestic+goddess%29
I about died when I read this!! I am sure you will too! ;)

Penny said...

Hi Corin. Reading through the comments here was as interesting to me as reading your post (gorgeous photos by the way). It seems to me that the attitude towards BF is much more negative in the States than here in Australia. I haven't looked at the stats recently, but I would hazard a guess that our BF rate is higher than yours (with lots of room for improvement). Some of the attitudes I picked up on in the stories actually shocked me. Why do women have breasts in the first place? It is only the western world that has sexualized the mammories!!! Nothing gets my blood boiling more than nursing mothers made to feel unwelcome. Sadly it is often other women who are the worst offenders.

*Mirage* said...

I guess I'm lucky I have never had a single negative comment about breastfeeding! I'm still a bit nervous about it in public, and will be birthing #3 come Sept., but that never stopped me from doing it. I've always tried to be very modest about it but I refuse to feed my babies in the bathroom. Nasty! Just because a person wants to be modest about it doesn't mean that they need to sneak around like it's shameful. I fed my babies in restaurants and in the car and walking through WalMart. It always surprises me that breastfeeding upsets people more than Janet Jackson's boob "mishap" at the superbowl. Why are breasts so disgusting in their natural God-given use but not when used as sexual symbols? I think the answer might be that people fear that the natural use of the breast is somehow a threat to the sexual. That a breast cannot be both or that breastfeeding "ruins" them. Therefore those who feel the sexuality of the breast is threatened by breastfeeding also themselves feel threatened by it. Just a theory I have. :) I'm glad that I've been so blessed to never have gotten negative feedback for nursing.

salina said...

amazin video and pics. my first is almost 2 months old and being breastfed. he's not a big baby. but seems healthy and the midwives have no concerns. but my mother in law is really stressing me out. everytime she sees my little one she compare's him to her neighbours new born. making comments like "the neighbours daughter has put on so much weight than yours, she's so mush stronger than your baby" and the the bit that i always dread hearing from her " i dont think your producing enough milk! you should start him on formula! her comments really get me down. i just want to enjoy breast feeding my son w/o my mother in law making me parnoid. she advised me to put him on formula so i can leave him with her if i ever need to go anywhere which makes me think maybe thats why shes making such comments so she can have my baby to herself. but why would she? i dont want to leave him anywhere. i want him with me.i just wish i could ignore her comments and not let them upset me :-(

mommymichael said...

Or be proactive and tell her to cut it out :). I had to deal with much the same from my father in law. I wrote him a nice but firm email saying what needed to be said. It work for me. There is no reason that she has to voice her opinion every time she comes over. And there is no reason you have to hear it. Would you take it from a stranger on the street or after a while would you say "listen, it's nice And all to hear your opinion but I don't want to hear it anymore "

Corin said...

@ Salina: I think a lot of moms today can relate with the way you're feeling and what's going on with you. Unfortunately, our mothers and their mothers were taught that formula is best and that breasefeeding was pretty much non-essential. I think those two generations carry that idea with them despite the evidence that is so clearly pressented today.

I actually had the same experience with my grandmother. Everytime I saw her she would ask if my daughter was "still on the boob". And it was clearly in a negitive tone. I knew she was simply misinformed about the importance of breastfeeding and it actually made me feel sorry for her, that she never got to experience the beauty and benefits of it with her own children. Anyway, everytime she commented on my daughter still breastfeeding, I always, in a very postive and upbeat manner said, "Yes. Isn't it awesome?!" Or something along those lines. Any comment she had, I met with a big smile and a sweet but firm and convicted response. Each time I did this I could see a sense of perplextion on her face! After a few months the comments stopped and by time I was on to my second child, she never even bothered to ask.

I simply kept nursing my kids in front of her, in public, whenever, wherever and made it clear that her comments had no influence or impact on my actions as a mother.

Robin Baker said...

LOVE!

Zion said...

Great post! I am still working up to bfeeding anywhere- but your photos have certainly inspired me to do it!!! Thanks :)